Unraveling from the masculine protective shields of your conditioning and stepping into your deeper truth, heart and essence as a sensitive feminine being

Through the hyper-focus on the masculine ways of doing and living in our world where we equate value with effort, and where we are continuously modeled that striving and chasing after more is the norm, it is a way that has a tendency to overlook other important aspects about life, aspects like being, tending, nurturing, feeling and flowing.

These aspects are essential to the feminine soul who's organic and inherent design is soft, sensitive, emotional and intuitive and many times also of a more spiritual nature. These qualities and gifts are easy to over-look when we are constantly focused on performing and meeting the needs and expectations of others which sadly gives rise to women feeling like they are not enough or of any true value (unless they are doing and achieving). When this deeply unpleasant feeling of not being good enough settles in (often starts at an early age), we instead begin to adapt and change into versions of ourselves that is not aligned with who we naturally are, but that is the version we have come to understand from our environment is the version one ought to be.

Instead of trusting our own uniqueness, pace and timing, we begin to forcefully create a life that requires us to work hard, struggle and push beyond our natural limitations. These are the ways we are being taught and since the deep need for belonging and community is so strong, we simply follow, even if it goes against what our hearts and intuition are telling us, because this is what everybody else is doing and we don't want to risk loosing approval and validation from others, we don't want to risk being "an outsider", alone or rejected.

Through this adaptation, what happens is that we begin to internalize external collective ideas and norms as our reality and truth (instead of listening to our own truth). These are not our own from the beginning, they are taught to us through our environments where care-takers like our parents, teachers and other adult figures are the main people creating this reality for us and where these ways become our conditioning. It is often through our educational system, work places and home environment where these masculine oriented ways are most vividly carried out. These are also the environments that shapes us most since this is where we spend most of our time.

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Even if these parts, ideas and patterns of ours are distorted because they have the fundamental viewpoint that we are not complete or deeply valuable on our own, without a partner and without doing, they are still our familiar and predictable which creates a feeling of safety. Staying in this safety (even when it is distorted or diminishing to who you truly are) often feels better (or at least the energetic pull towards is is stronger) than having to face the unfamiliar feeling of being deeply valuable on your own, because it is something you are not used to and that gives rise to fear.

This is the beauty of feminine healing that can be described as an art or process that works as a natural antidote to the harsh masculine conditioning, gently guiding women back to their hearts and inherent value through softening and through peeling off the layers that dim your light. It is a process that works with the feminine, not against it (like many other healing tools and methods today indicate when they are based in the striving, pushing and forcing expressions of the masculine ways).

Through these common and somewhat masculine based healing methods, it is my experience that many feminine women end up in a constant self development loops where they are constantly looking for things to fix, solve or change about themselves.

Although these tools have their time and place, they are usually deeply counterproductive to the feminine soul who is looking to embrace her essence and live with ease, trust and flow.

To de-armor from the masculine shields, it requires us to shift our perception and the ways we have been taught to live, be, express and relate to ourselves.

What ignites us into shifting, is the deep urning and longing for something different, that subtle voice deep inside whispering to you that something else is waiting and that you are meant for something different (even if you don't know exactly what or how). It is not a process with a straight, linear path to accomplishment, but rather a state of leaning back, resting, aligning and trusting that your unique path is unfolding exactly as it is meant to and to restore faith in your organic nature as a feminine being.