What the highly sensitive feminine needs to be balanced, healthy and fulfilled:

Being a highly sensitive soul, we are naturally more attuned and connected to the subtle energies of this world, both internally and externally. We are deep-feeling beings who move at a naturally slower pace and find both comfort and inspiration in nature, beauty, creativity, authenticity and warm heartened.

We crave naturalness, ease and flow and having true connection with others is what we deeply desire most, to be real.

This can however feel difficult to cultivate in a world that is so masculine and harshly oriented. It tends to disrupt our entire internal flow of energy and deeper soul purpose as feminine beings.

The dominant force in our society is driven by masculine energies, which means the primal focus is on doing - pushing, performing, achieving and proving our worth to meet the expectations of others, all qualities that are more harsh in nature.

What this usually does is teach women to over-ride their natural qualities, attributes, sensitivities and gifts because we believe that they are not good enough or of any true value.

Being feminine, soft and sensitive is sadly believed to be a sign of weakness, something naive and unrealistic.

But, it is not the highly sensitive that is at fault, it is the collective distorted masculine programmings that we are being taught from an early age to internalize as a truth. Highly sensitives, can never thrive in an environment that is constantly putting pressure and demands on them to be a certain way, to deliver results or achieve certain things, it is not how she has been created and it is not her purpose.

The sensitive feminine does not weaken when she embraces and embodies her natural qualities, sensitivities and gifts as a soft hearted woman - she strengthens, and through this strengthening she is able to share her gifts with the world the way that she is meant to.

It is my belief that we are simply not meant to live in accordance with the masculine oriented ways, we are not meant to be machines or deny core parts of ourselves in the ways we have learned. It is unnatural, constructed and has a synthetic kind of feeling too it.

We are meant to move in a different direction, one that is perhaps not modeled or taught to us as much, but one that is deeply needed and right for our hearts and souls.

This is the path that leads to true inner balance, health, joy, happiness and that makes us feel fulfilled as sensitive beings. It is a way of living that naturally supports who we are and where our qualities are cherished and honored, not diminished and depleted.

When sensitive feminine souls are in their right element, they naturally radiate and they are natural healers.

So what do sensitive feminine souls truly need?

1. Feeling safe

Feeling safe is key for the sensitive soul. Being told that you are too sensitive, to emotional and where your expression of emotions have been met with mis-understandings, rejection, dis-approval and sometimes anger has made you feel unsafe and it has made you believe that only certain emotions are accepted and welcome. This often leads to sensitive women shutting down the parts of themselves they have been taught is not good enough. When we shut down, it creates internal blockages and disables us from living with true balance and joy. Feeling, processing and expressing our emotional spectrum freely is deeply important since our emotional and more intangible internal world plays a huge part of our experience as highly sensitive beings. Allowing all of our emotions to exist and welcome them is how we connect deeper with life and what helps us navigate what direction to move towards, without this ability and gift we wouldn't be able to give to this world the way we are meant to by our higher spirits and we wouldn't be able to experience life so deeply which is truly a blessing.

Feeling safe to be provided for is also an important energy, safe to receive, safe to lean into our heart, safe to soften, safe to trust and safe to live a life that is gentle and supportive of our true selves and needs.

3. Cultivate trust in her uniqueness, path and essence

Sensitive feminine beings begin to naturally radiate once they have established trust in their own uniqueness, path and essence. When she trusts that her uniqueness is good enough and exactly what the world needs and the higher force has intended (not a constructed, false version of herself that looks, expresses and acts in ways she believes is expected and most admired by others) and when she trusts her natural path and unfolding without having to force or control it, that is when her true essence begins to shine through and that is when she can ease into a life of simply receiving + be a natural giver instead over-giving or chasing after more. This is also where she can begin to release to urge to fix or figure herself out through endless self-development tools and ideas, and instead simply lean into her deeper intrinsic value as a women of integrity.

4. Natural and unforced boundaries

Clear boundaries are essential to the sensitive feminine, especially if you come from a pattern of people pleasing, being an over-giver, perfectionist or controller which are common expressions and roles women take on to "protect" themselves. Holding natural, soft yet firm boundaries based in our sense of value, grace and integrity as women is how we protect our energy (it is otherwise common and easy for the highly sensitive to give away all their energy to others when there is lack of boundaries, sometimes without even knowing it). When the sensitive feminine reaches deeper into her heart and inherent value, she knows what she is worth and she knows what works for her soul and what doesn't. The deeper she connects with feeling worthy, the more effortlessly her boundaries will appear to her. They need not be forced or pushed, they will rise effortlessly the deeper we connect with out hearts and truths. What doesn't vibrate with the sensitive feminine's truth and value will simply not be a part of her life, it will gently be released to make space for the true beauty and abundance she is here to receive.

5. Slower pace and rhythm

Moving in a naturally slower pace and rhythm is also important to the sensitive soul who's own organic pace is lingering, soft and gentle. The masculine oriented ways have us believe that life should be lived in the fast lane in order to achieve what we are taught to strive towards. This pace usually requires us to multi-task, stress and do things that keeps our nervous systems on a constant high alert with high stress levels. For the feminine, moving slow and creating space for herself to process what is happening her life + reflect on how things make her feel is important. This is how she navigates, this is how she stays grounded and anchored in her heart. This is also how she hears her inner voice of wisdom, a voice she is unable to hear in a world full of noice and distractions.

6. Time in nature

We thrive in nature since nature holds the same kind of energy and frequenzie as our own inner essence. Spending time in nature on a daily basis lowers our stress levels, gives us fresh air and creates oppurtunities for us to connect deeply with ourselves. Nature is quiet, slow, present and always on time. Nature never rush, never compares, never force, it simply is. This is the perfect place for the highly sensitive to recharge and find comfort.

7. Rest, recharge and alone time on a daily basis

Because we are naturally more attuned to the subtle energies of the world, it is easy for us to become overwhelmed, even if we are embracing a slower lifestyle. Having time and space each day to rest, recharge and simply be alone with our own presence is essential for sensitive souls. This is how we process, release and come back to our hearts. This is how we cleanse. To me this usually looks like doing a guided meditation, laying in bed for a while or reading a book undistracted. A lot of people leaning more towards the masculine and harsh ways of living often find it difficult to understand the need for alone time and rest (or perhaps just find it unnecessary or hard to make time for), but to the sensitive soul, it is what fuels her, she truly enjoys her own company and it is necessary for her to spend a lot time alone each day in order to stay balanced. Without it, it is easy for her to become overwhelmed, stressed or disrupted from her own inner heart and essence.

I hope this article was resonating with you, please leave a comment if it did. I am always so happy to hear from fellow sensitive souls in the world!

Love, S